Good.. Better.. Best!

Good, better, best. Never let it rest, til your good is better and your better is best!

I learned this little phrase when I was in the second grade. It is one of those things that I have for whatever reason just always remembered. But this week it really hit home for me. I have had kind of a rough week and have been struggling with things in my life concerning the good things I have and the better things that can ultimately lead to the best things in life. I realized that no matter how good something might be, if it is just good, it is not good enough, we need to be actively pursuing the BEST things in life. This life has so much to offer, and if we settle just for the good, then we aren't living life to it's fullest potential. With some of the things I have been struggling with, it was a debate on whether or not to pursue something in my life. This thing I have been thinking about pursuing is a good thing, it's not a bad thing by any means, BUT it's not the best thing. There are other things that I can and should be chasing after if I want to accomplish my goals. Today I heard quote that I really liked, and that is so true. It went something like this... The enemy of the best, is the good. or something to that effect. Basically saying that good will stop us from becoming better which stops us from becoming the best we can be. We ALL deserve the best in life, and we can have it if we really truly put our full energy into it. Life has so much to offer and we can truly accomplish it all.

One of my most favorite quotes is by Miss Marilyn Monroe...

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can
learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right,
you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself,
and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

I love this quote, because it sums up life pretty well. But my favorite part of it all is the last line. "sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." Just because something in our life is good, doesn't mean it is the best. And just because something good falls apart, doesn't mean that there isn't other things out there. Life is so good and we truly can have the best if we really want it. It is all about setting our goals and never settling for less than we deserve! May we all pursue the BEST things life has to offer!

Good, better, best. Never let it rest, til your good is better and you better is best!

Life is a PARTY!!!

Simply put life is a party!! haha okay so maybe not, but it can be. Life is tough and it has its ups and downs, but you have to make it fun! If you don't make life fun, than you will never enjoy anything you do. You will be stuck in a life of day-to-day monotony. Doing the same things over and over. And what fun is that. Don't get me wrong, life can't always be partying and fun stuff. But you can make anything you do fun. My co-workers and I have this down to a science. We work at a bank, so it's the same old thing day in and day out. Five days a week I go to work for six hours and do the same thing, BUT I love my job because we know how to make it fun. We know how to laugh, and enjoy the things we do. And that is what life is all about. Making life worth living. Throughout our lives, we will experience some crappy things, things we never wanted to have to experience, or never thought we would. Whether it was a choice we made, or something that just happened, we all experience them. BUT if we have a positive attitude and try and make the best of every situation, we will enjoy life so much more. When life gets tough, if we get down on ourselves and start thinking that life sucks... it will. We won't be happy and won't see the good things we do have in our lives. No matter what comes our way, we can choose to be happy :) Life is so good, and there is so much to enjoy. Keep life positive and make everything you do a PARTY!

Not For Me .. But Thank You!

So, yesterday I was reflecting with a friend about guys that I have dated. The good, the bad ... the ugly. The way they treated me, the way our relationships ended, and the relationships that never actually happened. We decided that I should write a book because I have had quite the luck with guys... or not!I have had a lot of fun dating experiences good, bad, and embarrassing. I have had so many good times, but I have had too many painful experiences as well. But as I was talking with her and reliving the memories of the past I realized that as crazy and full of drama my dating life has been as of late, I don't regret any of it. Because each and every guy I have dated has taught me something. I have learned exactly what I want in a guy even if it was learning everything I don't want. It reminded me of the song "Not For Me" by Marshall Crenshaw.

Yeah I know what happened last time
And someday you'll wake up to find that
You've be waiting around
for something You'll never see

I don't have to wonder I know definitely
That it's just not for me

So I know what not to do
Cause I learned it from you yeah
Now I feel sorry for you
And I hope that someday I can thank you

So, to all the guys that I have ever dated... the good and bad...THANK YOU! I say thank you for everything you taught me. Even though I can now say that you were not for me, you have made me a girl who is smarter and stronger than before. You have helped me so that maybe the next time around I will get it right. I am a girl who has laughed, cried, and loved, who has been broken, played and lied to, but ALL of these things made me STRONGER! Even if I did have to learn things the hard way. :)

Defining a New Me

"Life isn't about finding yourself, its about creating yourself."

A common phrase that we hear as an answer to a question about one's life is that they are trying to "find" themselves and who they are. I never quite understood this answer, because I grew up knowing who I was and where I came from, but nonetheless, it has provoked a lot of thought over the years. Questions always came to mind like "How do you "find" yourself?" "Where would you look?" and "How will you know when you have found yourself?" Then, I found the quote that i shared above, and it summed up how I felt perfectly. All the time and energy people spend trying to find themselves, they could be using to create themselves. Instead of trying to search for something we are not sure of, why not create something we are. We are all given different hardships and trials that we have to face, but that is not what defines us. It is how we react in the situations which we are placed that does. And each and every reaction, for the good or the bad, defines who we are. Through the way we react we create a definition for ourselves. If we are faced with extreme difficulty and walk away because we think it is too tough, we are defined as weak. If we stand and endure everything that comes our way, we are defined as strong. Who we hang out with defines our "popularity", what we wear defines our fashion. And although these definitions most often come from other people, we are the ones who create the basis of the definition. Everyday, we label things. We are human it is what we do. BUT, just because others are the ones placing the labels, doesn't mean that we can't be the ones to write them. We are in control of the way we handle the situations that we face, we are the ones who choose what we wear and who we hang out with, and whether we like to admit it or not, ultimately we are the ones who define the labels we are given. If you are given the label of stupid, are you going to go along with it, or are you going to prove them wrong? No matter what the label, whether positive or negative, we define who we are by the way we act.

So, in my efforts of bettering myself, I have decided that I will I will define who I am in a new way. I will live up to the positive labels that I have been given, and disprove the negative ones as well. And in the end, people will still think what they want, but I know that I will have defined myself in the best way possible. I will not let labels restrict and prohibit me from achieving my dreams and my goals, and I won't let them intimidate me either. Because in the end I define who I am. I am the one who will decide how I will handle a situation, or portray a desired image. I decide who I am, and because I do, no one else can.